Monthly Archives: October 2013

A man needs a plan

A man needs a plan.

Repeat that five, ten, or however many times it takes to get it engrained in your brain. Then go outside, take five deep breaths, come back inside, and repeat “a man needs a plan” ten more times.

A man needs what?

A plan.

A plan, dang it.

Too many guys just expect stuff to happen. It doesn’t work like that. A successful date, evening, weekend, week, month, life requires a plan

Here’s why:

Haha! I think a lot of guys think that, but personallyI find it kind of annoying. Especially in the era of the text message. Dudes be all:

“You wanna hang out sometime?”

Me: Ok…

(a week later)

“So we should hang out.”

Me: Ok… … …. when? What does hanging out entail?

“Do you want to maybe go to dinner?’

Me: Sure.

“Where do you want to go?”

I mean, I don’t know. Did you not have any plan here? Have you ever been to a restaurant you like? How about you take me there so I can find out something about your tastes and interests? If I just want to go to a restaurant that I like I can do that on my own anytime.

But I guess that’s because I actually care about getting to know a guy and not just having him pay for my dinner.

Linked from this comment on Gawker

Let me repeat what she said: “Have you ever been to a restaurant you like? How about you take me there so I can find out something about your tastes and interests? If I just want to go to a restaurant that I like I can do that on my own.”

It’s not a difficult concept. Having a plan, or at least a semblance of one, will take you far in life. One thing I can’t help but love about Koreans is they always have a plan for what to eat come meal time. A co-teacher or whoever will say, “Let’s go get mandu for lunch” or “How about eating noodles? I know a place.” And away we’ll go.

On a more personal note when Lady Buckeye first came to my country town, we went to a restaurant I’d been to with a co-teacher in the past. The place was known for grilled samgyeopsal and tofu, and since it was so good, the place merited a return trip.

I can’t remember if she asked me where we were going or if I told her, but either way, I made the plan to go there. You can do the same. Like I’ve mentioned before, a man can ill afford indecision at any time of the day.

A man needs a plan.

Go forth and kick ass.

* “Engrained in the brain” is something a colleague likes to say. I like the rhyme in it.


Hiking may elevate your mood


Notice the caption…it gives new meaning to keeping off the grass.

Update: I’ve been away from blogging for a while thanks to busier days and losing motivation. I do have some posts in the works, but I took a break because blogging and reading blogs was taking time away from other things. The autumnal weather’s seen me spend as much time outside as possible to soak up as much sun as possible. As any Game of a Thrones fan can attest, winter is coming. ‘Tis okay. It happens every year. In the mean time, I’ll post links and quicker hits because there is plenty of stuff to get up here.

Expect a post on Japan soon.

The Ultimate Guide to Being a Man

In which Danny tips us off about a book called The Intellectual Life by Phillip G Hamerton, an oldie but goodie from 1877. The Kindle edition is free, so get that app and download it. I’ve been picking away at various sections and have found it informative and insightful. Hamerton, like many other 1800s writers, tends to write long and winding sentences, but they thankfully don’t obscure his message. Some of it comes down to “less is more” and how focus of work works better than hours spent at work. Specifically, worry more about wasting hours than minutes.
As an aside, his section on language and how taking a week to learn the “survival” words and phrases will work better for traveling than mastering this and that grammar rang true with me. I’ve found Koreans will forgive poor grammar if I got the main idea or key words right in a given expression. Enjoy!


the sphere is not short on writer’s and their books. i’ve read a few and have nothing bad to say about any of them. well, i was sorting through books to take to vegas to read if we’re ever lounging outside and i stumbled upon a book i realized i should have posted about LOOOOOOOONG ago.

i was home in NO and stopped in my local used book shop where they have a decent antique books section. in case you haven’t been keeping score, i LOVE antique books. i collect them. well, i ran across a book titled, “The Intellectual Life”, by Phillip G. Hamerton: dated 1877, first edition, published in boston. Cost me $12.

i can’t read it though. if it’s not treated gingerly, the pages may come off the binding. but what little I could read piqued my interest.

on a hunch, i looked it up in amazon…

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